These are forms of male aggression that only women see. But even when men are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a male friend. Another young woman was alone at the bar when an older man scooted next to her. He was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but she smiled curtly at his ramblings and laughed softly at his jokes as she patiently downed her drink. ‘Why is she humoring him?’ my friend asked me. ‘You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: ‘Because he looks scary’ and ‘I do it all the time.’
Amanda Hess, Why It’s So Hard For Men to See Misogyny | Slate (via dynamofire)
This is exactly what I was saying in my previous post. Men don’t realize what’s going on in these situations, and they read into it stuff that fits the narratives that they’re taught and that they want to believe. So rather than “she must be scared and trying to keep him back and stay safe”, they’ll go “why is she humoring him? she must think he’s rich” or “she must be so enjoying the male attention” or etc… Like in this situation her friend going “you’d never do that”, which is playing into the good girl/bad girl dynamic. Men don’t get that women do not see the world and men pursuing women the way they do. It’s not a game to us, it’s survival. And they don’t want to see it that way, and they’d rather frame it in any other way than that.
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Too much black pride. Not enough black unity.
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